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Our thanks to Kevin Metzger of The DADvocate Project (www.thedadvocateproject.com) for posting this video and starring in it. This is exactly the kind of topic we need to address: media perceptions of fatherhood. CNN contributor Josh Levs seems to have some genuine interest in the subject and a desire to explore the role of involved fathers. But host Drew Griffin not only seems clueless, he takes a few slaps at the concept.

We'll talk about the dads first. They represented their various blogs well and it was good that CNN promoted the individual website addresses so that viewers could see the content for themselves. Clay Nichols (www.dadlabs.com) makes a critical point in that the current crop of dads are forging new aspects to the role of fatherhood so its difficult to go to our fathers for advice. Our dads don't understand it because today's society is a far cry from the one they grew up in as well as the one they raised us in. Modern media no longer supports the "Father Knows Best" or "I Love Lucy" portrayal of leading man and responsible father. In that vein, Kevin Metzger (www.thedadvocateproject.com) stole -not that we mind- one of our main themes when he said, "we're not the Peter Griffin or the Homer Simpson that we're often portrayed as." Good job Kevin! And finally, CC Chapman (www.digitaldads.com) makes the point that society doesn't seem to understand how truly involved dads are with their kids. We completely agree and that is yet another thing we all need to work towards changing.

Now let's get into the hosts. Tellingly, the clip begins with "I feel like we should be talking football, but here we go." Griffin makes it seem as though this segment is a waste of time to him. We get the impression that discussing fatherhood is somehow beneath him. And Levs responds with, "hey, give 'em a shot!" Not exactly the best hook to the viewers.

After they air the interview, the discussion amongst the hosts commences and Reynolds Wolf makes a great comparison to his role as a father and that of his father and grandfather. They are wildly different. And Wolf he may have had a rough homecoming that night after telling the entire country that when he gets home, "the place looks like a hurricane aftermath." His wife probably didn't appreciate that observation.

Griffin goes back on the attack with, "I just want to know who actually is visiting this site", "I bet there are more women,", and his grand finale: "my advice would be get off the web and go see your damn kids!" Thanks for the pearls of wisdom Mr. Griffin.

In summary, the world of involved dads is growing and the media is doing a horrible job of catching up to reality. We need to continue working to bring them along and advocate with us instead of attacking against us. We also need more alpha male representation that society can observe as being a strong man and strong father at the same time.